Christmas 2023: There is No Room! Every year around this time, during the Christmas season, I like to reread The Story with a fresh perspective. It’s amazing how something new always jumps out at me. This year was no different. A few weeks ago, at church, our pastor was speaking on the Christmas story, and […]
Further Thoughts on the Joy of the Dance in Marriage For Life… Image by Jill Wellington from Pixabay A dance that brings joy – married for Life. It’s what we all want. My parents are in their 68th year. It’s not a perfect marriage, but I still see those moments when Mom – with love in her eyes […]
Further Thoughts on What to Say Rather than “But” in a Conversation! 11/2/23 Half empty or half full? You have heard the question – probably many times. It is asked after a speaker holds up a glass with water up to the halfway mark. The question is then posed for the purpose of discovering whether […]
Further Thoughts on SURRENDER! Where? When? Why? 10/27/23 Image by Paul Zilvanus Lonan from Pixabay I first had the notion of “surrender” come to mind when I recently imagined how I would respond to my wife after listening to her side of the conflict: I observed that I had a type of “but” in my first sentence I […]
Further Thoughts on How To Keep Conflict From Creeping Up On You! 10/19/23 For various reasons, I suspect almost everyone is afraid of conflict. Because of this, we do all we can to avoid it. This includes redefining conflict as something other than what we are currently experiencing. We think, as long as we aren’t […]
Further thoughts on the most important step to take when in conflict! 10/12/23 Do either of you feel a bit of tension right now – this moment – between you?” I had stopped a couple mid-sentence in a recent counseling conversation to ask them the question. They looked at me, then at each other, as […]
Further thoughts on Supporting a Loved One in Mourning: Practical Tip and Guidance: Image by Sasin Tipchai from Pixabay What does someone need most when they are grieving? Dr. Alan Wolfelt from the Center For Loss & Life Transition, says they need a companion. In his work, Introduction to Companioning the Bereaved he says the following: “… the word […]
Further Thoughts on: Do You Fight With or Against Each Other When in Conflict? (CLICK HERE to watch the short video!) Picture the last argument you experienced. You were facing each other pointing out how you were right and the other was wrong. My guess is the conversation didn’t go very well. In fact, most likely […]
Further Thoughts on How To Connect While Decreasing Polarization… Image by PublicDomainPictures from Pixabay It’s probably more true for most of us than we’d like to admit – whenever we differ with someone on important matters we feel disbelief and disdain. What? They don’t think like we think? What is wrong with them? Unchecked, the feelings lead to a […]
Further Thoughts on Silence… Image by Gaertringen from Pixabay Why is it so hard to be silent with someone? There are numerous times in life when being quiet or silent is best. We wake up in the morning before anyone else, so we practice silence. We are watching a movie, attending church, or have been called to an […]