Ever had a conversation with your spouse (or anyone close to you) that went south fast?
One minute you’re talking, the next your blood pressure’s climbing, and words are flying that you wish you could take back.
Here’s a simple, science-backed tool that can stop that downward spiral: Pause. Name it. Tame it. Let’s dig in…
Drawing from more than 30 years of clinical practice as a psychologist, Dr. Rosenberg explains that “emotions are biological events that last roughly 90 seconds and register first as bodily sensations.” The key, she says, is not to suppress or avoid these feelings but to consciously “lean into them.”
Let’s dig in…
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